My 5-Step Bounce Back System: How I Rebuilt My Life from Rock Bottom (RIJ #7)

Life has a way of flipping on you without warning. One day you’re making it work, barely, but still.

The next, you’re staring at the ceiling wondering how it all unraveled so fast. Your mind won’t stop racing.

Your body’s tired. Your spirit feels like it’s hanging on by a thread.

I know that place. I lived in it.

And I’m not just talking about having a bad day or a rough patch. I’m talking about the kind of storm that knocks the wind out of you.

The kind of season that leaves you feeling like you’re drowning in silence, holding a baby in one arm and a mountain of unpaid bills in the other.

Let me ask you:

• What do you do when the money’s gone but the bills still show up like clockwork?

• What do you do when you’re raising a child on your own and the loneliness hits so deep it echoes?

• What do you do when you want love, real love, but doubt creeps in because you’re 35 and tired?

• What do you do when you need to work or start a business to survive, but you’ve got no help, no babysitter, no break?

• What do you do when even your friends and family start whispering, wondering if you’re on the edge of losing your mind?

Those weren’t just questions I made up out of thin air. Those were my questions.

My reality. My sleepless nights. And maybe yours look different. Maybe you’re facing divorce. Job loss. Health battles.

Maybe you’ve buried a dream, or worse, a loved one. Whatever your storm is, hear me: There is a way out. You can rise again. And I’m going to show you how I did it.

How I went from broken, broke, and barely functioning… To fulfilled, in love, stable, and walking in purpose, all within two years.

There’s no fluff in this. No magic spell. Just a simple 5-step system that helped me bounce back.

In the photo above, I'm smiling with my daughter, but behind the smile, I was in deep pain, confused and uncertain, quietly wondering if life had anything more to offer.

And a few paragraphs below, you’ll see two more photos of me glowing, smiling, in the life I once begged God for.

How did I get from there to here?

Let’s get into it.

Step 1: Acceptance

This was the turning point.

Because nothing changed until I accepted that I was in a mess, and stressing wasn’t going to save me.

I had to stop fighting what was and start facing it head-on. I realized that fear and worry were draining me, not helping me…

Through my research, I learned that people who actively practice gratitude report better mental and physical health, lower stress, and improved sleep.

I had to tap into that truth. So I started practicing gratitude, even when I didn’t feel like it.

Yes, I was living with the bare minimum. Yes, I was behind on rent. But I was alive. My baby was healthy. I had another chance to fight.

Acceptance doesn’t mean giving up, it means stopping the emotional war inside your mind long enough to focus your energy where it actually matters.

The moment I accepted my reality, I found clarity. And that clarity became the fuel for what came next.

Step 2: Get Clear on What You Really Want

This step is powerful, and often skipped. When life hits hard, we focus so much on what we don’t want:

I don’t want to be broke.

I don’t want to be alone.

I don’t want to be stuck.

But here’s the thing:

Your energy follows your focus. And when you only focus on what you don’t want, that’s what keeps showing up.

So I flipped it. I sat down and wrote a list of everything I didn’t want, just to get it out of my system. Then, right beside it, I wrote what I really wanted.

Here’s a little peek at my lists:

What I didn’t want:

A boss breathing down my neck

A toxic relationship

Scraping by every month

Living in fear

What I really wanted:

A baby boy

A healthy, loving marriage

A stable income

A peaceful home

A purpose-driven business from home

Once I had that list, everything changed. I started aligning my thoughts, my prayers, my actions with that list.

It became my focus. And I looked at it every day.

Step 3: Meditation (Yes, It Works)

Let’s be real, when you’ve got bills, babies, and burdens, peace feels like a luxury you can’t afford.

But meditation is how I kept my mind from crumbling. It helped me stay centered, even when the world felt like it was falling apart.

I didn’t do anything fancy. I’d close my eyes, breathe, and just sit in silence for five minutes a day. Some days I cried. Some days I prayed.

Other days I just sat with my thoughts and let them pass. But what meditation gave me was space. Space to think. Space to imagine.

Space to shift my energy from panic to possibility. It’s in those quiet moments that I learned how to listen to myself again.

To tune into gratitude. To hold onto hope, even if by a thread. And the more I practiced, the stronger I got.

Step 4: Subconscious Reprogramming

Once I found peace, I started doing the deeper work, the kind that actually transforms you from the inside out.

Because if you want to change your life, you have to change your identity.

Your subconscious mind runs the show, and if it’s filled with fear, trauma, and old programming, it’ll sabotage every new thing you try to build.

So I started feeding it something different.

Through affirmations, journaling, and consistency, I began building new habits that rewired how I thought, felt, and behaved.

Here’s what I started doing:

Waking up early, even if exhausted, to set intentions for the day.

Listening to empowering content while nursing or cleaning.

Saying “I am” statements out loud every single morning.

Letting go of the guilt I had no business carrying.

This reprogramming didn’t just help me “feel better” it turned me into someone who was naturally aligned with the life I was manifesting.

I became a woman who expected good things. Who believed in her ability to win, even when the scoreboard said otherwise.

Step 5: Manifestation in Action

This is where everything starts showing up. But not like the internet wants you to believe.

Not like “think positive and it falls into your lap.” Real manifestation is alignment, energy, and action, all working together.

I visualized my dream life every day. I walked through it in my mind. I saw myself with my husband, raising our daughter and son, building a life we loved.

I felt it. But I didn’t stop there. I acted on it.

I built the business. I showed up online. I had tough conversations. I worked through limiting beliefs. I invested in learning. And step by step, it worked.

I got married. We had our son, our daughter became an amazing big sister, just like I had envisioned.

I work from home and earn on my terms. I’m no longer stuck, I’m rising.

From There to Here: My Full Circle Moment

If someone had shown me a picture of my life today, back when I was broke and alone, I would’ve cried, not from joy, but disbelief.

But it happened.

Not overnight. Not magically. But through a system I could repeat. A system you can repeat.

So what do you really want?

• More income?

• Real love?

• Inner peace?

• Better health?

• Fulfillment?

It’s possible. And you don’t need to be perfect. You just need to be willing. Because as long as you’re still here, there’s still time.

Time to bounce back. Time to become. Time to believe again.

So What’s Next for Me?

Oh, I’m dreaming even bigger now.

• Big business

• Collaborations

• Books

• Financial freedom

• Generational wealth

• Charities

• Community

• Purpose

• And spirituality, always

And I look at this new list every day, just like the first one. It’s not about wishing. It’s about deciding.

Claim what you want. Write it down.

Act on it. And don’t you dare give up, because I’m living proof: You can bounce back from anything.